I draw inspiration from SO many different things. My own wild imagination, movies, music, books, the sky, the stars and so much more. While I was in London this past summer, I decided to go see a movie one night. Before the movie played, a short cinema spot came on. As soon as it began, I was instantly captivated, forgetting the whole world around me. I was drawn in to it’s every frame. I had no idea what it was for, but I didn’t care. I was breathless. I couldn’t move. The images that passed in front of my eyes had taken me away to a fantasy land that I never wanted to leave. I was stunned by it’s utter beauty. Even though the film was only 3 minutes long, I felt like I had been drawn in for hours. I was wonderstruck and left in complete awe. I was left feeling so incredibly inspired that I could barely breathe. This short film had captivated my soul and thrust me into a dream world I would never escape. As I left the movie that night I couldn’t stop thinking of this beautiful work of art. I thought about it for days, weeks, months. It is what inspired me to create the recent shoot I call “A Boudoir Dream“.
I drew my inspiration for the shoot from this beautiful film. But if you watch it you can see how my shoot is not at all a duplicate or copy of this film. You may be able to see how I could have drawn some of my inspiration from it. But if I had not told you this, you would have never known. My shoot and this film could be side by side staring you in the face, and you would not know that it was my inspiration. My Boudoir Dream is still very original and different than what you see in the film. See, it’s okay to be inspired from someone else’s art. We all do it. Ideas are all created and sparked from somewhere. However, there is a difference from being inspired and copying/stealing.
When I picked up my camera at age 15, I never looked at a photography book or photography websites, etc. It was literally just me and my camera. I taught myself how to shoot and practiced on anything I could to gain experience in lighting, composition, exposure, etc. As many years passed, and I began to realize that photography was more than just a hobby… that it was a calling; a gift. When I realized that God had indeed designed me to be an artist, I began to develop my style and what I wanted my images to look like. This took many many years. MANY YEARS. It didn’t happen overnight and it certainly didn’t happen by trying to be like another photographer. I had to do it the hard way, the long way and it has truly paid off in more ways than one. I didn’t take any shortcuts in my career as a photographer and I can say that is one of the best decisions I have ever made. Because I look at my work now and I am proud. Damn proud. I have come a long way from when I first picked up a camera and I absolutely LOVE who I am as an artist. I love it for so many reasons but one of the biggest is knowing that I can take SO much pride in myself in knowing that I am not like anyone else. I am special, unique. What you see in my work comes from my heart, my dreams and my own extremely hard work that I put into it.
I am SO SO SO flattered by the constant outpouring of comments and emails from photographers who tell me they are inspired by my work and business. I cannot tell you enough how much this means to me. Truly. I never expected that in all of my life. I just wanted to be a good photographer for myself and my clients. I never imagined I would have any sort of impact on other photographers. NEVER in my wildest imagination. So please know, with all of my heart, I am so grateful by your kind words of encouragement and flattery. However, I do sometimes feel discouraged when I discover another photographer stealing my images, ideas, or words I have written. I must be extremely honest in saying, this sort of behavior does NOT flatter me whatsoever. It is very frustrating to say the least. I have worked hard for almost half of my life to become the photographer and business owner I am today. I have spent years and years developing my talent and learning things about business to become who I am today and build the business I own. To see someone so easily just steal what I have worked so hard for and call it their own is utterly disrespectful, atrocious and evil. Stealing doesn’t benefit anyone. And it only makes the thief look, to be blunt, STUPID.
I am an extremely hard worker. I take such pride in every single thing I do concerning my art and business. I spend hours and hours researching things to benefit my work. Every single aspect of my business was birthed because of my own hard work and money. It’s why my business is unique and special. It’s why I can say without a doubt there is no one else out there like me. Why? Because I work hard on my own. I don’t take shortcuts. And I don’t steal. I truly do not understand those who do. How do you sleep peacefully at night? How can you take any pride in what you have done? When you know at the end of the day no matter how much you lie to everyone else and convince the world it’s yours, you know it’s not yours.
Let me get a little more specific about what really bothers me. When I find out another photographer has copied words that I have written, then changed a few things to make it their own, and pasted it onto their own site/blog, my blood boils. I am not a very gifted writer. It takes me hours and hours sometimes to come up with the proper writing for things I share to my readers and clients. I write, and re-write sometimes over and over. HOURS AND HOURS. It is so wrong on every level to copy what someone else has written and call it your own words. Not to mention it’s highly illegal and a little thing called plagiarism. It’s why I have spent hours of my time and tons of my money with lawyers so that my words are legally copyrighted and so I am protected. Don’t copy, you only make yourself look unintelligent and there will be consequences. Cheating and taking shortcuts in life only truly hurts yourself.
Something else that bothers me is when people constantly ask me where I buy my props, backgrounds, equipment, products, etc. I dislike the attitude in the world today that because I worked my little booty off and researched my own stuff, that it is expected that I should just share every aspect of my business with anyone who asks. This is SO wrong on SO many levels. Yes, there may be other photographers out there who make it their business to sell and give away their business secrets. But let me assure you, I have no desire to do so. If you were to go to a painter’s art show, and saw a beautiful piece of art he created. Would you be so bold to ask him how he painted it? What brushes he used, what type of paint, what type of paper he painted on? Would you ask him if he did it in natural light outside or in a dimly lit studio? Would you ask him how he found the building to have his art show? Would you ask him how he does his pricing? Or what about a master chef. Would you go to a restaurant, eat a delicious dinner and then ask the chef to come out so you could ask him the recipe? Or let’s thing even really big here… what about Apple. Would you call up Apple and ask them how they invented the iPhone, Macbook, or iPad? No, you would not. So why is it expected of me to share my business secrets? Truthfuly, I would be a very foolish business owner to just offer up every detail of what I do and how I do it. Very foolish.
Truly successful people are the ones who worked hard, didn’t take shortcuts and didn’t steal.
I am writing this post with the intention to encourage you to be your own artist, your own business person. Be inspired. But don’t copy, don’t steal. It won’t benefit you in the end. Be different, be unique. Learn things the right way. Do your own research. Do your own hard work. I ASSURE you that if you do it the right way, and take the narrow path, you will be SO much happier. I am so flattered if you draw inspiration from me or my work. Truly I am. But the biggest tip, advice or secret I can tell you is to make your business and art your very OWN, special and unique. Be original.
xo
The Boudoir Vixen
By the way, as a side note… I photograph SO many photographer’s from all over the United States. It’s SO flattering that they would trust me with their special boudoir memories. I absolutely love it. I don’t want anyone to read this post and think that I don’t want to photograph other photographers, because I love them just as much I love my non-photographer clients. The photographers who come to me are all so extremely respectful of what I do and have never put me in an uncomfortable position. I just want to express how much I appreciate that. xo
Please check out the video below of Swarovski’s Cinema Spot. The film that inspired my Boudoir Dream.










by courtney
Rachel - I am a fairly new, self-taught photographer, in an area where there are new photographers popping up all the time. I’ve had many people ask me for advice, etc. I don’t mind helping out someone that is new by answering technical questions/critiquing/etc. Recently one of the aspiring photographers that I had helped stole my words from my website and placed them on her own, as well as her Facebook page. I was livid that someone would take the words that I had worked so hard to create and pass them off as their own. A friend of mine told me I should probably just let it go, but I couldn’t. Part of me wondered if I was making a big deal out of nothing, and after reading this blog I am so relieved to know that others find it incredibly disrespectful as well.
Love you work, I’m so glad I found your blog. I’m shooting my first boudoir on Friday morning and I’m pretty nervous about it.
Chris - Agree with about 98% of what you’re saying.
Be weary of people who arn’t here all the time and seeing the “I hate people asking me about that, this, etc.. it’s so rude” – especially if they arn’t photographers because they won’t understand your stance on a few of the items. While I agree 100% that you’re definitely on to something, you are here on this platform with your art to create fans, inspire people & most importantly business, not to give up and comers the impression that asking questions is wrong. There are all sorts of ways to get better, it’s never a bad thing to ask a question if it has the right intention. In the right context, a question is 100% fine. If i could ask Ben Chrisman a question, I would. Why? Not because I’d like to copy him but because he inspires me. I’d like to know his thought process to make myself better because I look up to him as a wedding specialist. Technical questions are iffy. What type of lens, no problem. What type of full SOOC settings? Crossing the line. Questions that are asked to invoke your own creativity which you can then build upon, are fine questions. Questions that are used to dive into your business system to copy from instead of doing the research, absolutely wrong. For instance, I’d ask Ben Chrisman how he scouts locations & what he looks for. I don’t think that’s crossing the line because the answer would then require me to use my own creativity at my own locations & I would be building upon a tip. Asking him to show me exactly how he got a shot because I really want to do “that shot” is crossing the line because then i’m taking what he does and being exactly how he works. Questions about what’s going on inside their head are ok, I think. I believe that’s what you’re trying to say but I could be wrong. Either way, kudos for standing up for what you believe in on your most intimate platform. I applaud you.
AC - Hi Courtney,
I am not trying to sway your opinion because we all have different ones, just wanted you to see where my heart was at. You are extremely talented and I wish you nothing but success.
Your points about your hard work and ideas being stolen are completely valid. It is understandable that you would be hurt by someone taking something that you are so passionate about. I will not speak for others but I would like to say something about a question I asked just to give you another perspective. I once asked about a bed in your studio. Now, I am not a photographer nor will be one in the future, I just saw a photo of the bed and thought it was beautiful and would like to have a similar one like that in my own room. I did look at some sites that had pretty beds, but none that struck my fancy so I inquired about yours. This was not meant as an insult, nor to take away from your hard work. I simply thought of it as if I saw a girlfriends new piece of furniture that was pretty and asking her where she bought it, never thinking that it would upset her for me to inquire. I completely understand about not wanting to share what camera you use, lens, or where you have your photo books made, etc. I thought it would be ok to ask about the bed thinking that we could all have a bed like that and never be able to duplicate a photo like yours, nor would I be silly enough to try
Carrie - So if someone wanted inspiration and some advice and tips from you, how would you prefer us to ask you?? Or would you rather us not?
Heidi - I’ve literally never read your blog before, but a fellow photog who I love dearly “Liked” this, and I am all about reading blogs from other photographers about THIS topic.
I totally agree with the ‘copy/paste’ issue, however what caught my attention was your angst at people asking where you get your stuff, how you make your magic. I follow some photographers & designers who make their living off of selling their ‘secrets’. I use their stuff all the time. BUT I recognize that my images will NOT be identical to theirs, regardless of my shutter speed or apature… AND if I’m planning a shoot, or see a prop I really love, I GOOGLE THE DARN THING.
And what makes me laugh is that these people think just because they have the EXACT same prop/setting/camera, somehow they will make the exact same gorgeous image. Boggles my mind – If I had the exact same brush/paint/canvas as Picasso, I couldn’t for the life of me paint a picture like his.
I will be following your work, even though I don’t book much boudoir, in hopes that the beauty you create will honestly inspire me to seek and create my own brand of beauty! Thanks Courtney <3
courtney - Hi Sarah, thank you for taking the time to comment. Let me say that I completely understand what you are saying. I can see how my post could be taken the wrong way especially if this is your first post of mine to read. Let me assure you that I am not against learning from others. I am also not against being inspired by others as I stated in my post. I am against stealing and copying. Stealing someone else’s words or ideas and calling them your own is not learning. Steve Jobs may have told his story (which I have told my story before as well), but he certainly didn’t lay out his entire business structure, plans or secrets. I am constantly writing posts about my life and trying to inspire others to live their dreams and be the very best version of themselves that they can be. This is something I absolutely love to do. However I do not have a desire for someone to come and take something that does not belong to them in order to benefit themselves. This is hurtful to me as an artist and is something that shouldn’t be happening. Yes, I want people to be inspired from others, but don’t steal. That is all I am trying to convey in my post. Thank you again for taking the time to reach out. If you have additional concerns feel free to email me: info@theboudoirvixen.com : )
Sarah - Normally I don’t comment on blogs, but this was my first visit to your site trying to research photographers for my wedding gift to my soon-to-be husband. First, I was a little surprised at the content of your blog. I guess it is just a little different than what I saw other photographers blogging about during my photographer research. Anyway, I did want to say I agree that plagiarism is completely wrong, but I don’t think learning from others is wrong. I admire you for making your own way, but you NEVER had any help learning anything (lights, ideas, workshops, etc)? I guess since this history of photography is so great, it is a dis-service to those who went before you. It just seems that even some of your ideas may have been used before, but if you never read or studied photographers, you just don’t know it? As an educator, some of what you said seemed like you were against learning from others. Even Steve Jobs, as you referenced, told his story…to teach people. Maybe I misunderstood the intention of your post?
jessica - I totally agree. I own a beauty shop and work on a lot of photoshoots and I see this all the time. Whenever I nail a shoot or do something amazing in my salon I know it will be copied and repeated over and over. Sometime I want to quit and stop pushing myself to be better, to be one step ahead of everyone else. But then I remember why I do what I do. Its because there is something inside of me that I have to do it. This is my art, its my passion, my joy.
Cassandra - You keep saying you aren’t a great writer. It may not come naturally to you like photography, but that does not mean you aren’t good at it. This was very well written.
I am a photographer and I have booked a session with you and while I am kind of giddy to meet you because I admire your work so much, I would never dream of waltzing in and asking you for your secrets!
I really admire that you speak what is on your mind, but without being mean or distasteful.Not many people know how to do that.
Angel Morein - That video is Beautiful! Love!! Thanks for sharing, I see why it had you captivated.
Rhiannon - You are amazing. Don’t ever forget it.
Heather James - Well said!!!! You are so right!!!! And these words needed to be spoken!! You are the BOMB and beyond inspiring
much love!!!!!
Brittany - Swarovski is amazing & I can see how you were inspired. But your story seems SO different. If only ALL artists could be inspired without straight out copying!
You are AMAZING & I look forward to eventually setting up a shoot with you!
Jenle - Hi! {First, I think you have more writing skills than you think.
} 2′nd, great topic. It’s crazy what happens out there. I often wonder and have never mentioned it to anyone, what professional opinions are about the workshops out there when people all buy information/books/etc etc or learn from the same people who teach their secrets that might be used to learn indiv styles, etc. A lot of that work looks very similar. Where is that line drawn between stealing ideas or similarities? Just a thought. I’m going to bring it up later today while with another shooter. Even words commonly used, experiences, color schemes, and the like.
} so when I saw one of yours I thought “Oh WOW~ where the heck did she FIND that because it looked like a gorgeous rarity. In addition, we are alllllways in search of pieces that look vintage or have some sort of a story attached to them. It’s fun! Vintage stores are the best.
I know I asked you once some time ago where you found a headboard or something~ I’m sorry if I offended you. :} It was not my intention at all. My Grandmother has taught me about antiques all my life {she was an antique dealer
I’m glad you wrote this today. I am now officially in search {in my thoughts- no where else} of a color scheme no one else has. Been a long time coming. Best, J.
Britt - Eloquently spoken. After working in the wedding industry for a number of years and now owning a wedding accessory business, I find this is the norm: where did you get your vases, what types of glue do you use and my favorite: how do you make this are among many of the laughable comments that I have heard. I am not sure if people are just complimenting my work and truly in awe or if they have decided they can replicate my work. With that said, my standard response is I find all of my items and create my works with the utmost care and attention for my clients. It is made with many years of trial and error. I feel that when you are kind and friendly people simply assume you are their friends and forget that you own a business. Soon enough the comments will cease or at best you will expect them and be able to shrug it off. I am still working on shrugging it off. I simply attempt to grin and bear it.
Yvette - If only I can tell you how many times I have come across this exact thing. Hats off to you, you truly know how to put this sensitive point across. Very well said! By the way, your “A Boudoir Dream” is simply fantastic and in a class of its own! xxx